“Women are like apples on trees, the best ones are on top of the tree. The men don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and don’t want to get hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren’t so good but easy. So, the apples at the top think that there is something wrong with them, when in reality they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right one to come along, the one who is brave enough to climb all the way to the top because they value quality.” ~Pete Wentz
This quote it's necessarily from Pete Wentz. It’s a quote based on a story/fable that has been around since at least the 70s. As I was growing up as a teenager, my mom would tell me a version of this story. And while I think this quote is a great quote for little girls getting their first boyfriend or perhaps women amid a breakup, I think it is relevant in life beyond romantic relationships.
At the time of this writing, Kamala Harris has become the first woman vice president. Woah, talk about shattering glass ceilings! This is a perfect example, though, of how I feel this quote can be used outside of relationships.
I remember one of my old jobs in my twenties, I was quickly climbing the ladder in what one would call ‘a man’s industry’. Despite that against me, I found the confidence and drive I needed to break my own glass ceilings in this particular organization.
Oddly, I did not make many female friends along the way, though. In the case of this quote, I was the apple growing at the top of the tree, becoming bigger, brighter, and more noticeable than some of the other women in the organization, which could represent the apples on the ground in the above quote.
It wasn’t fun not being invited to things, not being part of office showers and birthdays. It hurt. But I just kept pushing through, until the time for me to exit that organization.
Sometimes, in order to be the apple on the top, the only thing you need is true confidence within yourself. Confidence to succeed, confidence to love, and confidence to be true to yourself. That is what the Confident Tree Blend is about. It's about being confident in your own skin, even when you don't think you can.
The oils in this blend, mandarin, is a strong citrus scent that bleeds confidence as soon as you open the bottle. In fact, it is thought that mandarin oil heightens intuition which is why it makes up 50% of the recipe.
Bergamot is also in this blend and it's emotional quality is to give you confidence to speak up for yourself. It is also known to enhance mental clarity, which is needed if you're going to fight for your value.
The ability to stand up for yourself, to have self-acceptance and creative freedom are some of the qualities of the Engelmann spruce oil that is part of this blend.
The last oil, petitgrain, I used because the emotional quality of being able to release control and ask for help associated with it.
To be confident and to succeed in life, love and business you need to not be afraid to ask questions and to speak up for yourself. That’s why this blend is so important to me. I use this blend as an inhaler, a diffuser, and a rollerball. I built this blend as a rollerball today because of its ability to be carried in a purse or pocket.
Before I speak in front of large groups of people, this is the rollerball I put on. So as I'm standing in front of a group of people in front of a microphone, all I smell is this empowering blend and it gives me that boost to my confidence I need to push through my self-doubt and regain my confidence. I hope it can do the same for you!
Confident Trees Blend
Fill one half of a rollerball with Fractionated Coconut Oil
50%- Mandarin Oil, Citrus nobilis
25%- Bergamot Oil, Citrus bergamia
15%- Engelmann Spruce Oil, Picea engelmanii
10%- Petitgrain Oil, Citrus aurantium
To purchase any of these oils from one of my favorite oil company, Rocky Mountain oils, click here. To purchase roller balls at a great price, click here. Looking for it already made? Check out my shop here to get your own!
I hope you have a great week and I look forward to my next recipe and ramblings.