#4 Recipe and Ramblings: We Love
“I see when men love women they give but a little of their lives, but women, when they love, give everything.” ~Oscar Wilde
Men Are from Mars Women Are from Venus. The five love languages of happy couples. I could go on and on with all the books out there on love and relationships. The reality is, it's not going to get me anywhere. Men are very different than women. Men make messes, women make homes.
When a woman's heart is full, she will do everything and anything under the sun for her partner. I would like to believe that men would do the same thing, I just believe it's genetically impossible. And that's okay. I think it's important still to show our partner the love we carry for them in their heart.
I find that when you go out on a limb and communicate, this is a way both you and your partner can get closer to each other. In all of my relationships, romantic or not, I find the strongest ones are the ones where I can communicate openly without any fear of judgment or backlash. It is so important to understand but other people's emotions are not opinions.
Let me say that again, other people's feelings are not opinions. There is no way to agree or disagree with the way someone feels. Telling someone you are sad only to have them try to convince you that you are not? That's not love. How you feel is not up for debate. It is not subjective. You feel sad and that is that.
In love, women tend to show how they love differently than men. That is where this massage oil recipe comes in. This blend could be used as a few drops in a bathtub, as a moisturizer after your shower or, a massage oil for those communicative evenings.
There are only a few truly floral romantic oils. This blend has all three of my favorites: rose, jasmine, and ylang ylang. All of these are extremely strong florals, which is why they only take up a quarter space of the bottle.
It is interesting being a clinical aromatherapist. What I find the most interesting is how my colleagues and I differ in our scent profiles. Ylang Ylang is one of my all-time favorite oils. I use it in massage oils, salves, and even perfumes. To me, ylang ylang is more romantic and sensual than rose or jasmine.
But many of my colleagues wrinkle their noses up at it and are bewildered I do the same over jasmine. It just goes to show that it’s more than the science around the oils, it’s also how we respond to them.
So when you make this blend you want to blend on a drop-by-drop basis. I would sit with the oils and see out of the three which ones most resonate with you and use that in a higher ratio. Start by adding one drop of rose oil, then a drop of jasmine, and then a drop of ylang ylang. Then another drop of rose and see if you like that. You might find that you have equal amounts of all three oils or that one is more prevalent than the other two.
You’ll also need to fill the bottle three-quarters full of a carrier oil.. You could use something as simple as fractionated coconut oil, jojoba wax, grape seed oil, sesame oil, olive oil or something a little bit richer like Argon.
At the end of the day, this blend was formulated to be a “love blend”. So have fun with it, enjoy it, and use the oil to show your love.
We Love Massage Oil
¾ part of carrier oil (Fractionated Coconut, Grapeseed, Sesame, Jojoba, Olive, or any other oil that absorbs nicely into the skin.)
¼ part of a blended mix of:
Rose Oil, Rosa Damacena
Jasmine OIl, Jasminum grandiflorum
Ylang Ylang Oil, Cananga odorata
Fill an amber glass jar three-quarters of the way full with your choice of carrier oil. Drop-by-drop add a bit of each of the essential oils until you’ve found the perfect romantic blend for you and your partner to enjoy.
All of these products, including the carrier oils, can be purchased here.
If you are simply looking for the blend already put together and ready to use, you can grab it from our online store here. Just know, in my own blend, the focus is on ylang ylang, so if you want one of the others stronger, just send along an email after purchase!